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How To Deal With Disappointment

yuanli00 于2014-03-06发布 l 已有人浏览
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当你失望的时候,你是如何处理它的呢?是去找人狠狠的发泄呢?还是默默的自己发呆?

How To Deal With Disappointment

Joy is sometimes a blessing, but it is often a conquest. Our magic moment helps us to change and sends us off in search of our dreams. Yes, we are going to suffer, we will have difficult times, and we will experience many disappointments—but all of this is transitory it leaves no permanent mark. And one day we will look back with pride and faith at the journey we have taken.
― Paulo Coelho

Learning to deal with disappointment is part of a fulfilling life. Disappointment is natural and normal, and everyone will experience it to some extent in their life because our expectations often don’t align with what actually happens.

Sometimes life deals us a difficult hand, and events and trials arise that we have no control over. In other cases it is our own actions themselves that cause our trials. Regardless of the nature of our trials, difficulties and disappointments are a part of life’s journey and how we deal with them will largely determine the quality of our life. This article will help us to effectively deal with disappointment by setting out four simple, easy-to-remember strategies to make our journey more enjoyable. I call them the four Rs.

Redefine Our Rules
It is very possible that our disappointment is due to the fact that we have an internal “rule” that is disempowering. An internal rule is a set of circumstances that must be present in order for us to feel happy or successful. For example, if we have a rule that says we need to be perfect, it is likely that we will spend a large amount of time feeling sad, disappointed and frustrated, since no one is ever perfect. Also, if we have a rule that requires something that is out of our control in order to feel happy or successful, then it is very likely that we will end up being disappointed. So when we feel disappointed, it is wise to review, and possibly redefine, our rules. Want an example of an empowering rule? Try this one: I am happy and I am successful when I give my best effort.

Remember Our Why
Our “why” is the reason that we are seeking a particular goal. Often a why is multilayered and multidimensional. There is more than just one reason why we want to accomplish a particular goal. Our why gives us internal strength and persistence. It also gives us courage to face disappointment and start again. When we feel down, or disappointed, or discouraged, it is helpful to remember the reasons why we are committed to a path in the first place. When we revisit those reasons, we will likely renew our commitment and not get hung up on the disappointment of the moment.

Recommit to Our Vision
Disappointment is the not the end of the road, it is merely a setback on what will eventually be a great and inspiring journey. So when we have those momentary setbacks, when we feel disappointed or discouraged, it is helpful to think about our larger vision and recommit to it. A larger vision isn’t defeated by a momentary disappointment. In fact, a disappointment can be a very valuable experience because it serves as education, thereby making us more capable of dealing with what the future may bring.

Reset and Start Anew
Resetting, and starting anew, is a powerful behavior habit. What happens when we reset is that we accept what has happened, and then we commit to moving forward. We don’t live in the past, we take what the past has taught us, but otherwise we move along. We wake up the very next day as if our whole life is ahead of us and we have the chance to start fresh, and nothing that happened in the past prevents us from creating the life that we have always desired or from accomplishing the goals that we are seeking. Resetting and starting anew prevents us from wallowing in self-pity—a very disempowering activity—but rather forces us to get up, and move forward.

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