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• jean07 (2008-5-15 22:29:33)

  I think it's understandable to seek psychiatry help when people find it hard to survive stresses from work or life. If one does this way, I could say he's reasonable. Anyway, it's better than  becoming insane. I still insist that we do what we are able to do, if out of line, then more consideration.

• wwlcj1982 (2008-5-16 15:18:45)

  A man who admits that he has weakness is the man who holds the strength, because he knows that he is just a man, not a super hero. haha I think this attitude towards himself will arm him and immune him from most of mental problems. To be powerful, or to be another one he thinks better, would result the opposite fruit, because he does not accept himself as himself.——自我接纳
  
  According to Soren  Kierkegaard，mental illness originates from the inner absolute desperate, which he defined as the act of refusing to be oneself because of the fear of death.

• 天心月圆 (2008-5-18 00:24:06)

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  原帖由 wwlcj1982 于 2008-5-16 15:18 发表
  A man who admits that he has weakness is the man who holds the strength, because he knows that he is just a man, not a super hero. haha I think this attitude towards himself will arm him and immune  ...

  agree
  
  
  Your point of view is both reasoning and reasonable. A tough person, from my perspective, is the one who is able to face up to his shortcomings and weakness with exceptional bravery and more admirably tries every means to eliminate them. People with strong will can afford to reveal their disadvantages without hiding any of them, deriving  self-confidence and renewing their mental strength from within. A weak person, however, chooses to avert his eye from his weakness and go to any length to disguise himself  with a fig leaf, let alone trying to solve them. Therefore, they are prone to loathe psychiatric treatment in fear of exposing their defects -----their so-called “privacy”. But ignoring antinomies will never end up with eliminating antinomies, and ignoring weakness and averting psychiatrists would only confirm weakness to the point.
  
  
  A truly strong person never ceases to pursue self-improvement for he is conscious of the fact that no one is born capable,faultless and perfect. They spare no efforts to discover, expose and analyze imperfections in any way possible. Seeking for psychiatric help when they feel necessary is a good example confirming that they belong to the category that are willing to improve themselves as much as possible, and will never regard it as a shame or humiliation. Conversely, those who tragically lack the sense of building a renewing self and fulfilling themselves will hardly realize the importance of psychiatry as a tool to assist them.
  

• bbjay (2008-5-18 05:07:28)

  I don't think it is a sign of weakness. To go to a psychiatry is one of the good way to let those inner pressure or bad emotion out. Everyone need a person to talk about. We don't need to pretend to be strong when we really need some help. We are not robots anyway! Those who are not dare to talk about their problem are reallly weak person at all.

• wwlcj1982 (2008-5-21 10:01:32)

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  原帖由 天心月圆 于 2008-5-18 00:24 发表
  agree
  
  Your point of view is both reasoning and reasonable. A tough person,from my perspective, is the one who is able to face up to hisshortcomings and weakness with exceptional bravery and more admirablytries every means to eliminate them. People with strong will can affordto reveal their disadvantages without hiding any of them,deriving  self-confidence and renewing their mental strength fromwithin. A weak person, however, chooses toavert his eye from his weakness and go to any length to disguisehimself  with a fig leaf, let alone trying to solve them. Therefore,they are prone to loathe psychiatric treatment in fear of exposingtheir defects -----their so-called “privacy”. But ignoring antinomieswill never end up with eliminating antinomies, and ignoring weaknessand averting psychiatrists would only confirm weakness to the point.
  
  
  A truly strong person never ceases to pursue self-improvement for he isconscious of the fact that no one is born capable,faultless andperfect. They spare no efforts to discover, expose and analyzeimperfections in any way possible. Seeking for psychiatric help whenthey feel necessary is a good example confirming that they belong tothe category that are willing to improve themselves as much aspossible, and will never regard it as a shame or humiliation.Conversely, those who tragically lack the sense of building a renewingself and fulfilling themselves will hardly realize the importance ofpsychiatry as a tool to assist them.

  Have you ever experienced the frustrated feeling when you are refused by others, especially in the occasion that you want to show your kindness and love for them, yet get the return of cold face? What is the first thought and feeling that come up in your mind? I remembered that there were lots of times when I got this response I would like to give up, yet the second thought always tagged along: there would be nothing for me to lose and love asks for no return. Here is a question I asked myself many times: why should one improve himself? why should I improve myself when improving seems impossible? Because what I see about myself is that I am a person who is inclined to escape from  weakness, to hide it from others in order to protect myself from hurting. As soon as I am hurt, hatred would come out from the deep side of my heart.
  I don't know if you study the psychology in college, but there is a theory:
  Desire and possibility of success are the two major factor that can decide one to act. If a person really want to get something yet the possiblilty of successfully getting it is very low, he probably would not take action. If a person's desire to get it is very low, he would not too. If I am not wrong, this theory is called "Behaviour Expectation Theory".
  So here is my question, if one thinks improving himself is meaningless, would he still be able to reveal his weaknesses instead of trying to protect himself from the outside world?
  Or why would a person have the feeling of hurt, or why any other person can hurt him?

• arlai (2008-6-18 10:20:42)

  The root method is to seek the source of the pressures and stresses.
  IF you cann't deal with it youself,then ask for psychartry help.
  It dosen't have any relation with the choices wether you are weak or strong.

• sunzg1972 (2008-7-31 12:04:56)

  I think it is strength, at least, we can face our mentally problem and seek solution, it is quite positive.

• ashres (2008-8-01 02:19:43)

  the very fact that you realize that you need help is a sign of strength. to act on that realization requires even more courage.

• ina200x (2008-8-01 11:58:17)

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  原帖由 天心月圆 于 2008-5-15 15:23 发表
  With increasing pressures and stresses enforced from  modern society, and the booming development of psychiatry, many people begin to plunge into the current of seeking psychiatric help when they feel ...

  Definitely, seeking help from psychiatrists should not be dispised or judged. Afterall, we are human with feelings, we laugh, we cry, we are happy, we are upset. Seeking help from psychiatists is  posive action to face yourself instead of negleclting. Every person suffer from pressure in this day-by-day developing socitey, and every person has his own way to deal with pressure. And resort to psychiatrists is absolutely a good way.
  
  But there is a strange phenomena,4or5decades ago, psychiatrists are rare,people seldom whine about dayily life.Aparently, the pressure is growing fastly...
  But, who put these pressure on us, what cause our pressure.
  That is a question.
  When u asked the person surrounding u, what's their final goal of life? Most may say"well-piad job, health body, happy family", of course, some may say"self-realization, achivement in his/her career",  the goals of the first type seem simple and easy to realize, the later one maybe more difficult .However, why those people with simple goal are puzzled by life?