three secrets to happiness

We all know that money can’t buyHappiness… but many times we act as if we’d be happier with a bit more money. We are conditioned to want to be rich (when we know the rich aren’t happy either); we are trained to want the latest gadget or style. that television tells us to want; we want to earn more money because then we’ll have the goodlife.『原版英语』HrW'|*R

But none of that will bring usHappiness.No matter how much we earn, no matter how much we have in the bank, no matter how nice our clothing or cars or toys, none of it will make us happier. And the sad thing is that it could take us decades of pursuingwealthand luxury items before we realize this.『原版英语』3n|;Na$zc.c)RP

So what will bring usHappiness? Luckily, it’s three things that don’t cost a thing. These three things have been proven by research — surveys of hundreds of thousands of people about what they have, what their lives are like, and how happy they are.『原版英语』#i6W+Yi
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9{o%d.`*f]bF dk0Here they are, the Three Secrets toHappiness:

1. Goodrelationships.We have a human need to be close, to be intimate, with other human beings. Having good, supportive friendships, a strongmarriageor close and lovingrelationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy.
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   Action steps:Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop yourrelationshipwith them.
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2. positivethinking.I’m obviously a big proponent ofpositivethinking as the best way to achieve yourgoals, but it turns out that it can lead toHappinesstoo. Optimism and self-esteem are some of the best indicators of people who lead happy lives. Happy people feel empowered, in control of their lives, and have apositiveoutlook onlife.
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   @PrR MH,[8C0Action steps:Make positive thinking a habit. In fact, this should be one of the first habits you develop. Get into the habit of squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them withpositiveones. Instead of “I can’t” think “I can”. It may sound corny, but it has worked for me, every time.『原版英语』xQW'g'D:SD
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3. Flow.This is a popular concept on the Internet these days — the state we enter when we are completely focused on the work or task before us. We are so immersed in our task that we lose track of time. Having work and leisure that gets you in this state of flow will almost undoubtedly lead toHappiness. People find greatest enjoyment not when they’re passively mindless, but when they’re absorbed in a mindful challenge.
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   8{@ me6fOz3wr `0Action steps:Find work that you’re passionate about. Seriously — this is an extremely important step. Find hobbies that you’re passionate about. Turn off the TV — this is the opposite of flow — and get outside and do something that truly engages you.

.I s4H:o._/|!Um0You’ve been given the Three Secrets toHappiness. Don’t waste them!