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CNN采访虎妈蔡美儿英语视频和文本:中国母亲更优秀?

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虎妈蔡美儿接受CNN采访,Chinese Mothers Superior? 虎妈的数育儿方面的书《虎妈战歌》,大谈中国教育的方式,受到了西方很多人士的质疑,甚至反思西方的教育方式,到底是

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虎妈蔡美儿接受CNN采访,Chinese Mothers Superior? 虎妈的数育儿方面的书《虎妈战歌》,大谈中国教育的方式,受到了西方很多人士的质疑,甚至反思西方的教育方式,到底是东方的还是西方的教育更好些?

 

CHETRY: It's 40 minutes past the hour. Our next guest's article is raising a little bit of controversy. When it comes to raising successful kids, Chinese mothers have it right. Amy Chua is raising her children the way that she was raised in a strict Chinese household. And she has written about her somewhat extreme parenting methods in her new book.

Here's an excerpt. "Here are some things that my daughters Sophia and Louisa were never allowed to do -- attend a sleepover, have a play-date, watch TV or play computer games, choose their own extracurricular activities, get any grade less than "A" and play any instrument other than the piano or violin."

The book has people talking and generating controversy. It's called "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" and author Amy Chua joins us now. I had to laugh because some of this resonated. My dad is from Nepal. When you're a child or product of the Asian culture and this is general, but there's a greater emphasis on listening to your parents and to studying.

AMY CHUA, AUTHOR, "BATTLE HYMN OF THE TIGER MOTHER": Right.

CHETRY: Also to just measuring up to their expectations of you, not what you want.

CHUA: Right. Right.

CHETRY: How did you find as you wrote this book, how did you weave that into the way you raised your girls?

CHUA: One thing that -- if there's anything I regret about the piece that's causing controversy is that it doesn't convey that the book is not how to guide. It is making fun of myself, and the person at the beginning of the book is very different than the person at the end of the book because it's really about my own transformation.

And in fact about two thirds of the way through the book there's a whole swerve where I suddenly my younger daughter who was 13 rebels against the strict parenting and I was -- it was traumatic. I was confronted with this choice and in the end, I thought I have to pull back. You know? Nothing's more important than my daughter. I won't lose her.

CHETRY: Some ways it was a growing pains for you, as well. But let's talk first of all about those ideas and, you know, of course some people take issue with the fact it said Chinese, but you're writing what you know because that's how your parents raised you.

CHUA: I say early on in the book using a term loosely. I'm not speaking for al Chinese parents and more of an immigrant thing. You were saying I know a lot of Jamaican, Korean or Indian parents who have similar mind-sets and others that didn't use this because they didn't like it applied to them.

CHETRY: We are losing this growing up in America and western influences. My dad always said that learning is a privilege and going to school is a privilege.

CHUA: Right.

CHETRY: He sort of carried that ethic with him. And he did impose that on me. I laughed in the book talking about all "A's" and a "B" an American parent says congratulations. A Chinese parent says why did you get that? That's not acceptable.

CHUA: Did that happen to you?

CHETRY: Of course!

CHUA: You have to put it in the family context. Every family's different. If you say that in some families it could be really horrible and harsh and undermining. But I grew up with extremely strict and extremely loving Chinese parents, immigrant parents.

And for me, I mean, as a grown-up looking back, their having high expectations for me coupled with love was the greatest gift to give me, which is why I tried to do it with my two daughters and with my first it was smooth and then my second, we're very similar. She's a fireball. We have hot tempers. We locked horns from day one. And again at 13 she really rebelled. We began having terrible fights, a very dark period in my life. I really began questioning everything I'd ever done. And that's actually why I wrote the book.

CHETRY: So in a nutshell, what can western parents learn, though, about those high expectations and the emphasis on studying that you talk about?

CHUA: Yes, I think that there are strengths and weaknesses to both the Asian and the western models. They're almost mirror images of each other. There are real strengths, though. There's a question we're all confronting where does true self esteem come from?

You know, I'm a little surprised. I -- I -- it's almost like the idea of striving for excellence is -- is a bad word. You know?

(CROSS TALK)

CHETRY: Right, because it puts too much pressure on the kids.

CHUA: You know and -- and that's true. By the way I agree with that. If there's too much pressure, you get to the point where people are cracking and they are miserable, you've got to pull back. That's -- that's the point in my book in a way, you know.

I retreated. But short of that, if there's love -- I mean, for many, many people having high expectations, learning that you could do something, that you thought you couldn't, I mean, that's a great feeling.

Once you have that experience in the future you think, wait a second. I -- I -- I once thought I couldn't do something and then through hard work and not giving up, I -- I learned I could do it. So, you know, this is a good lesson.

And also, not making excuses, I find it interesting that these are called "Chinese values". You know hard work and don't give up and don't make excuses. Take responsibility. Be self reliant I mean, the way I was taught because I think of those as really fundamental American values.

So in some ways I think the book is really sort of where should we go? Maybe we need some sort of hybrid, some sort of balance between, you know, what I see as maybe we're -- we've moved to a slightly overly permissive, overly coddling western model somewhere between that and the other extreme which is this overly strict, you know, it's got to be the violin or piano model. We try -- I definitely moved away from myself because I thought happiness for my child, you know, having the family stay together is the most important thing, ultimately for all of us.

(CROSS TALK)

CHETRY: So it does -- it does make you think and you're right the -- the title of your book is actually "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" it's not Chinese moms are superior. But it did get the attention of a lot of people and it did get forwarded around.

Amy Chua thanks so much for joining us this morning.

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